Labor collective: Everyone hates me. How to behave if you do not like at work

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What to do if suddenly everyone at work began to hate you.

There is no place for collectivists in the African savannah. It is more convenient to act according to the principle “every man for himself”: there is less responsibility. And they will eat - no one will regret it. Therefore, zoologists were very surprised when faced with the phenomenon of mobing: an attack by a group of animals on a lonely fellow.

Psychologists were even more amazed when they found out that mobing is also present in human society. Moreover, according to statistics, he is found in every fifth team. Our task is to warn you and equip you with the latest methods to combat this phenomenon.

With the fact that not everyone adore you, you gradually begin to get used to it immediately after parting with diapers. Indistinctly spoken words, awkward steps and a naive smile are not enough to cause a general explosion of delight and tenderness. At first, toys, natural charm help, then a sense of humor, money and, finally, professional skills. Everything that allows you to find a common language with friends, colleagues and superiors.

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This works with varying success, but the real surprise is the moment when even the most positive qualities and actions, instead of admiration, cause irritation and even hatred. Quite possibly, these are the first signs of mobing, or simply bullying. Its goal is to survive a person from the team, completely deleting him from the staff list and the list of employees.

OCCASION

To get on the list of enemies, you don’t have to spill carrot juice on a colleague or trip him in the corridor. He will do everything you need for you. He'll look at your payroll to check your salary against his own, or hear you flirt with the secretary he wanted to propose to. You can cross someone's path simply by getting a position that one of the old-timers of the company has been counting on for a long time.

There is only one result: the offended begins to hatch insidious plans for revenge. If he enjoys formal or informal authority in the team, other colleagues quickly unite around him, and revenge becomes a common cause.

METHODOLOGY

Mober's fantasy is limited by the degree of their intellectual development. And, of course, official position.

If the answer to at least one of these questions is negative, the best way out is to write a letter of resignation. It is unlikely that someone will reproach you for cowardice or lack of will for refusing to fight an aggressive crowd for an empty idea. If you are determined to fight, take our advice into service.

GET GRANTABLE

If at a sufficient level of anger you complain about a bad memory, start writing down all the grievances inflicted on you. Keep a diary for this purpose. So write: “Today at 11:24 Ivanov treacherously stepped on my foot, after which he laughed in my face. Bastard." German psychologists advise doing this.

In ancient Roman stadiums, even after the most boring fights, there were citizens who raised their thumbs up out of a desire to save the lives of negligent gladiators. Among the attacking colleagues, there will also certainly be those who, deep down, sympathize with you and are silent during the discussion of your new tie with polka dots. Getting closer to them, you will practically introduce a saboteur behind enemy lines. From now on, when talking about your odious person, approving voices will sometimes be heard.

FIND A FRIEND IN DIFFERENCE

It is likely that you are not the only one who is subjected to mobbing in your friendly team. If one of your colleagues is also constantly forced to endure attacks and provocations from colleagues, you will probably have a couple of common topics for conversation with him. It is unlikely that you will be able to conclude an invincible alliance, but at least you will have a psychological outlet that will help you deal with other problems faster.

ELIMINATE ERRORS IN WORK

Even if the office has turned into a psychological battlefield for you, this does not mean that you need to forget about work. Your opponents are just waiting for you, carried away by confrontation with them, to begin to ignore your immediate duties.

Believe me, run to your boss shouting: “Ivanov again failed in the supply of pumps to the regions!” - will be the greatest joy for them. Avoiding this is clearly in your best interest. Having started a war with colleagues who dislike you, work as if your life directly depends on it. By the way, in a sense, it is.

APPEALS TO THE STRONG

Any competent leader understands that mobbing in his team harms the business. Naturally, he will try to prevent it. Therefore, after a particularly insidious provocation, do not hesitate to draw the attention of your boss to it.

Most likely, he will intervene (unless, of course, he is the main mover, although in this case you are already looking for a new job). And in general, since they are trying in every possible way to denigrate you in front of the authorities, demonstrate your whiteness and fluffiness as soon as possible. But it is better to avoid reciprocal attacks towards colleagues - even in war, not all means are good.

PREVENTION

Having achieved a more or less high position, you actually exclude yourself from the number of potential mobing targets. However, looking down on the mouse fuss of your subordinates is the worst thing a boss can do. Mobing is detrimental to the team as a whole.

Talking about work in an environment where more than half of the employees are busy spreading rumors and weaving intrigues is simply pointless. Therefore, to reduce or eliminate the likelihood of mobing in the team entrusted to you, take into account the following.

GET RID OF THE THINGS

If you can somehow influence the selection of personnel, introduce a strict taboo on hiring relatives and old friends of your employees. The presence of tribal clans naturally leads to the emergence among them of a sense of their own elitism and impunity.

Practice shows that it is among such mellow “cabal” that Maubert initiatives are most often born. True, the situation can turn out to be exactly the opposite: a hired relative will take a vacancy that one of the “veterans” has long dreamed of. It is he who will lead the team to attack the newcomer.

ENTER COMMUNISM

We do not call you to build a society of universal welfare in a single collective. Just try to provide subordinates with more or less equal working conditions and pay. For example, do not allow new office chairs with a back massager and a built-in coffee maker to arrive to employees in turn: “upgrade” all jobs at the same time.

Try to make it as difficult as possible for employees to find out about the numbers on the payroll. Finally, avoid having favorites, especially female ones, or at least keep your sympathies a secret.

MAKE ACCESS TO INFORMATION

If some information about the affairs of the company is not intended for a limited circle of users, such as top management, they should be truly public. All sorts of meetings, planning meetings and meetings help to make them so. All this allows you to keep hundreds of mines up to date with the main information flows. As a result, there is no elite caste in the team, which learns important information earlier than others. And in every possible way seeks to abuse it.

RISK GROUP

If you fall into one of these categories, the likelihood of being mobbed increases dramatically.

Outside employee
Serfdom was abolished in our country more than 150 years ago, but it is still customary to outbid especially valuable souls. Such an employee in a new place receives privileges in at least three parameters: wages, the attention of superiors and the hostility of colleagues.

Inexperienced Newbie
If you did not serve in the army and escaped hazing, at your first job you will probably have to taste all the delights with a vengeance. This, of course, is not quite mobing, but it may also lead to thoughts of dismissal

Pensioner
"Make way for the young!" Under the guise of such a life-affirming slogan, comrades under the age of 50 and older are accused of sclerosis, senile dementia, outdatedness, and other traits incompatible with work. If you turned out to be such a pensioner and do not occupy the chair of a director or a minister, mobbing towards you is almost inevitable.