Possible consequences of punishing children with a belt

Unfortunately, punishing children with a belt for some kind of disobedience is a fairly common occurrence. Many current parents were also victims of such upbringing in their time, but their opinions regarding the punishment of the child in this way differ. Some prefer not to subject their child to such tests, while others prefer the opposite. They believe that it is spanking that contributes to the normal process of education.

As for the opinion of experts, resorting to spanking has not only a physical impact on the child, but also an emotional one. Also, the use of brute physical force by parents automatically reduces their self-esteem in the eyes of children.

It has been proven that the sources of teenage cruelty and aggression lie in deep childhood. The small organism is not only vulnerable to viral and infectious pathogens. Mental health at such a young age is also vulnerable. Various factors can disrupt the normal formation process. An elementary fright, even from a dog, can shake the emotional health of a baby. Therefore, with the help of assault should not be present in.

It's no secret that young children are not distinguished by unquestioning obedience. The child is trying in every possible way to know the world and win his place in society. The key to successful education is the method of reward and punishment. With how to encourage a child, as a rule, there are no problems. Unconditional, if the baby is guilty, it is also impossible to leave this without due attention. He must learn to understand what can and cannot be done, since not all pranks of the crumbs are harmless. But before hitting a child on the pope, it is recommended to mentally put yourself in his place.

According to the research observations of psychologists, children who were physically abused in childhood become malicious and selfish personalities in the future, but it can be different - cowardice and deceit develop.

Children imitate their parents

The next time, before punishing a child with a belt, it is recommended to think about the future of your child and that one of these moments of upbringing can break the psychological health of the baby.

After each such pedagogical episode, the child is fraught with anger. Sometimes children begin to hate their parents and, at the first opportunity, try to harm them. Considering the aspect of physical advantage, children from such families, where a belt is practiced as a punishment, compensate for all the accumulated anger on their own. Other social problems arise from this.

Aggression at such a young age, caused by physical punishment for every offense, is not an indicator that the child is bad. The fact is that such upbringing leads to the formation of the concept that in order to achieve your goal and prevail over the others (in this case, over those who are weaker), you need to show your physical superiority.

Another important feature of such upbringing is trauma to the child's body. Some parents can simply slap the strap on the bum without applying any force. In this way, they kind of scare their baby that next time everything can be for real. But there are mothers and fathers whose behavior can be called despotic. They are capable of beating their child severely. There are many stories about how parents made their children disabled for educational purposes.

Reasons for child disobedience

Before you carry out a belt for his disobedience, you should understand the reasons for this behavior. All problems can be solved without resorting to violence, but in the process of a calm conversation.

According to the observations of psychologists, the main causes of child disobedience are as follows:

• struggle for self-assertion;
• one of the methods to attract the attention of parents;
• feeling of insecurity;
• the desire to always contradict;
• lack of normal education;
• permissiveness;
• excessive demands on the behavior of the baby.

After birth, within about a year, the baby learns the world and is formed as a person. Even a small child who does not yet fully speak the language, but already understands what others are saying to him, has his own self-esteem. Children, unlike their parents, do not consider themselves small and therefore often defend their position as best they can, that is, whims.

Most often, the reason for doing everything in defiance lies precisely in the attitude of adults towards their child. If parents do not pay enough attention to him, then the child tries all sorts of things to get him. Another provocateur of such behavior may just be the resentment that the little man is fraught with for the fact that mom or dad punished him, and especially if physical force was used.

The abstraction of children often occurs on the basis of constant pulling from the parents. The child's mind tries in every possible way to protect itself from all reproaches from the elders. After a fairly short period of time, he completely ceases to perceive what adults tell him, if this is not beneficial for the baby himself. Additionally, self-doubt begins to form.

A feeling of confusion and unwillingness to fulfill all requests can be provoked by a fairly large number of people who take an active part in education (grandparents, aunts, uncles, kindergarten nannies, and others). The child is lost in the demands that “merge” on him from all sides. This does not mean that the crumbs are surrounded by bad people. The fact is that every adult develops his own concept of proper education. For some, for example, smearing clothes is an occasion for a serious conversation, for others it is a trifle that does not require attention, and for others it is an occasion for punishment with a belt, and so on. The totality of such requirements makes the child not obey anyone and always defend his point of view, that is, to do everything in defiance.

One of the reasons for the child's capricious behavior is the lack of consent among adults.

Quite often, parents demand the impossible from their children. They stand firm in their position and resort to punishment for the lack of a positive result. Constant exposure to such pressure is psychologically depressing for the child, especially when he cannot fulfill the whim of his parents due to his physical abilities or age. Often the result of such actions of parents is that the child completely refuses to listen to the elders. In addition, such stories often end with the children running away from home.

Raising a naughty baby

In Japan, according to their traditions, no educational influence can be exerted on a child under 5 years old. In their opinion, this period of time is considered sacred, therefore, education with a belt is not even considered here. But what about parents when their child is trying in every possible way to do everything in defiance and does not listen to their elders? This question is individual for each child, do not forget that the baby is small, but still a person. According to psychologists, at the moment of disobedience, it is necessary, first of all, to calm down the parents themselves and restrain their wave of aggression. In order to calm the child, you can:

• Distract the little one from the source that provoked his emotional contradiction. You need to focus on another object.
• Change environment. You need to be taken to another room.
• Try to create a dialogue and agree on a compromise solution to the problem.

In order to attract the attention of your child, you can raise your voice to him, take his hand or, on the contrary, let him go. It is also not recommended to conduct a dialogue for educational purposes in raised tones all the time. If a child hears a cry all the time, at some point he will simply refuse to listen and will continue to act up with even greater zeal. Even a small person is a rational being who is able to understand the information that is conveyed to him in a language that is accessible to him.

You need to try to explain where he made a mistake and what consequences the actions of the baby could lead to. For example, if a child broke a cup and did it on purpose, you need to ask what prompted him to such actions. Perhaps he was wondering what would happen to an object if thrown on the ground. Do not forget that children learn about the world around them over a long period of time. There is also a possibility that the cause of the broken kitchen appliance was a childish dislike for this item (did not like the drawing or the cup was heavy and uncomfortable). Stories about what will happen if the baby beats all the dishes (he can cut himself, there will be nothing to drink from, etc.) should independently push the child to the fact that in the future this cannot be done.

Kindergarten and other public institutions

Kindergarten, school and other places where the child not only spends a significant part of his time, but also forms as a person, should not be the object of bullying for the baby.

Quite often there are incidents when children are physically punished by educators or teachers. If a child complains about being treated badly by teachers or other children, this should be taken into account and appropriate action taken. No one has the right, and even more so strangers, to practice raising children with a belt. But before you fall into hysterics and threaten the offenders of your child with the involvement of the police, you should understand the veracity of the words of the baby. Some children try to attract the attention of their relatives in this way, or they simply do not want to visit such public places.

In the case when the physical punishment of strangers turned out to be true, it is necessary that the child knows that the parents stand up for him and will not leave this moment unattended.

Children should always feel the support of their parents.

Children without whims

According to experts, a normal healthy child simply cannot be completely obedient in everything. Of course, it is much easier for parents of such children to raise their children. Absolutely obedient children can be for several reasons, and all of them require increased attention:

• phlegmatic character. As a rule, this feature is not a pathology. In his behavior, the baby is always measured and calm. Such children are not punished and they greatly facilitate the process of education for parents. The disadvantage of this feature is the fact that it will be difficult for a child to adapt in a society dominated by sanguine and choleric people.
• congenital diseases. Any disease, and even more so congenital, reduces immunity and partially “takes away” the energy power of the crumbs. So his curiosity to the world around him may decrease.
• Fear of being punished. Children, frightened by cruel punishments, close in on themselves over time, and in order to avoid "reprisals", they often prefer to remain without attracting too much attention to themselves. They do not ask questions, they do not touch anything, because they remember how their parents punish them at their slightest mistake.

Ideal parents do not exist, but before you belt, try to find another way out of this situation. Do not refuse the help of professional psychologists.