• Is it okay to hit a child with a belt?

    “Of course not,” psychologists and educators will answer. “In some cases, this is simply necessary,” some ordinary people say, and to be honest, some psychologists and teachers.

    When punished with a belt

    Before moving on to the question “Should a child be beaten with a belt or not?”, Let's think: “What, in fact, can be beaten with a belt?”.

    In the Middle Ages, corporal punishment was considered the norm in the educational process. They beat me, however, with rods, not with a belt. And in this way children were punished for any faults. He does not listen to the teacher - 10 rods, did not do his homework - 15 rods, and there could be no talk of bickering with elders. Let's turn to history and remember that in the Middle Ages, during the time of the Inquisition, adults were executed in public in the square, and skillful devices were invented for this. Moreover, in all countries of Western Europe and Russia, corporal punishment concerned people of the lower classes and children. Isn't it humiliating? Even then, such means of education were opposed by J. A. Comenius and the thinkers of the Enlightenment J. Locke, J. J. Rousseau, Pestalozzi. And we seem to be moving in the right direction, appealing to the individual and appealing to the conscience of the child. Yes, not everywhere: since the end of August 2011, corporal punishment of schoolchildren with rods has been allowed in the UK. Is it the impotence of teachers or the need for time?

    Will this solve the problem of education? Probably not. It's just that it's easier: I took a stick / belt, unfastened it, as it should be, so that it would be disrespectful, so that the child would be afraid and not do it again. But I don’t want to explain, look for the reasons for the “bad” behavior of the child, and I don’t want to change something in myself and the environment of the child, it’s too difficult.

    Any child's behavior is understandable. It’s just not clear for what offenses you can beat with a belt.

    Many faced the fact that a teenager came home with the smell of tobacco, which means he smoked. Therefore, it harmed your health. The restless father takes the belt and ... discourages smoking. Who stopped using tobacco after that? Nobody, actually. Later, the same child begins to simply drink more alcohol. Is it about the child? Doesn't reach? No, he just does what he wants, he just got the right company, but where is the father? He is busy with his own business. He earns money, at best, and even sits at home, defiantly drinking beer and smoking cigarettes. In the first case, the parent provides money for bad habits, and in the second case, he sets an example. How to be? Lead a healthy lifestyle and instill it in your child through joint sports. Otherwise, for the sake of justice, ask the same teenager to beat you too.

    What else is a belt used as a punishment for?

    For a damaged item, such as a broken window, a broken toy, a torn dress, or a parent's car. It's just that all these things are expensive, and the child does not understand this, does not know "how hard money is earned." Only the next time you break the rules of the road, ask the traffic police inspector to beat you off. And why not rejoice that your child is alive and well?

    For the fact that mom / dad was late somewhere because of the slowness of the child (he dressed slowly, walked along the slippery street not as fast as he would like) or his whims (“wrong dress”, “I don’t want to go anywhere”). Only the next time you dress up, changing one dress / suit for another, when you are going to visit, take a belt with you so that you would be punished there for being late due to your fault.

    Why is there NO belt?

    Precisely because:

    • physical punishment can lead to physical injury to the child: slapping a baby in the hearts can cause not only pain, but also harm to his health;
    • punishment with a belt is a compensation for the unjustified ambitions of parents, and what it is like for a child, they do not think, therefore we say NO to parental weakness and impotence;
    • corporal punishment is a way to show a child that you are superior to him, for this reason we say: NO to a belt;
    • causing pain and suffering to a weaker one is low and vile, it brings up cruelty, therefore: NO beating children;
    • it is useless for the child, therefore: NO, NO and NO PUNISHMENTS WITH A BELT, ROCK, etc.

    These tools are not educational in and of themselves.

    How to react when “a belt is crying for a child”?

    The best educators are our example, our love and attention.

    If the child's behavior threatens his life:

    1. Warn him about it.
    2. Set an example of the right choice (not just in words, but in deeds). A preschool kid should be stopped, holding calmly and quietly by the elbow or shoulders, as an option, you can hug.
    3. Sometimes give the opportunity to "fall" so that there is something to compare.
    4. Support in good endeavors.

    If the child's actions are destructive for the world around him (breaks, destroys, spoils):

    1. Stop.
    2. When the child's outbursts of anger/tantrums stop, explain the wrong behavior and how you feel about it.
    3. Offer to fix the situation: wipe up the spilled, repair the broken, sew up the torn. For kids - with you. For the older ones, as an option - to compensate for the material value: to work out (clean up the house, pick up the younger brother from school / kindergarten - the main thing is that this is in addition to the child's permanent duties), find a way to earn money (develop an income plan and implement it - in modern In the tech world, it's not that hard.

    Understanding our children to us, and let them grow up as worthy people with a sense of self-sufficiency and confidence. A belt in this matter will not help us.

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